tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11306845.post112925279760058671..comments2024-03-28T03:19:40.014-04:00Comments on The Y Files: Female autonomy or new "separate spheres"?Cathy Younghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09688616617444359647noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11306845.post-1129339248576070892005-10-14T21:20:00.000-04:002005-10-14T21:20:00.000-04:00You've sure got a lot of patience, Cathy, this pos...You've sure got a lot of patience, Cathy, this post and the comments just pissed me off.<BR/><BR/>Althouse complains about young men:<BR/><BR/><I>A lot of them are in prison, for one thing. Others do not look for women to be faithfully devoted to. They seek selfish pleasures, not more responsibilities. Many have substance abuse problems. They are not pursuing higher education at the same rate as women. There is a disparity that leaves a lot of women without partners. I'm sure some of the women are too picky or too conceited or whatever your stereotype is, but a lot of them are good women who haven't got reasonable marriage prospects.</I><BR/><BR/>but she can't seem to grasp why these things might be the case.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11306845.post-1129313615720429232005-10-14T14:13:00.000-04:002005-10-14T14:13:00.000-04:00Itec,I suppose that the sexual harrassment could b...Itec,<BR/><BR/>I suppose that the sexual harrassment could be a reason. I am more inclined to believe, however, that they have trouble finding 'suitable' men, because of the following:<BR/><BR/>a) Some of those women are snobs. (I know women like this.) If a guy isn't as successful or more, as educated or more, interested in 'higher' culture, reasonably good looking, etc, then he isn't suitable.<BR/><BR/>b) Eligible men who meet the criteria above and are in an 'acceptable' age range are dating younger women.<BR/><BR/>c) Some of those women do have serious issues with committment and relationships.<BR/><BR/>d) Some of those women don't have problems with committment or relationships, but they spent their most fertile years with a partner who did. They then find themselves in middle age, divorced and childless (because he wasn't ready).<BR/><BR/>Etc...<BR/><BR/>Personally, I have never wanted to be a mother, so I do not at all understand the desperation some people have to procreate. I also believe there are plenty of people on the planet, as it is, so it isn't NECESSARY for them to procreate. <BR/><BR/>That being said, if a woman or man can afford to do this, and really, really wanted to, I would never tell them it wasn't an option, nor assume that they were a bad person with questionable motives for pursuing it.<BR/><BR/>Does this reflect some effort to get men out of childrearing? I think that is a stretch. People who have a 'war between the sexes' mentality might interpret it that way, but I think it is more a reflection of the fact that some people will do just about anything to have kids, regardless of their circumstances, biology, or the havoc it will wreak on their lives.<BR/><BR/>zAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11306845.post-1129309857538182032005-10-14T13:10:00.000-04:002005-10-14T13:10:00.000-04:00I would also like to add that boys are allowed, if...I would also like to add that boys are allowed, if not encouraged, to exhibit horribly sexist behavior these days. Reprehensible behavior towards females is all too accepted. I think it's up to men to demontrate to younger men and boys that any display of machismo that denigrates the female is unacceptable....period. The rapper posturing, the style of clothing, the sloppiness, the open disrespect, the name calling......all must be discouraged by MEN.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11306845.post-1129295373662040732005-10-14T09:09:00.000-04:002005-10-14T09:09:00.000-04:00I don't think any of the posters called Althouse a...I don't think any of the posters called Althouse a man hater. One poster merely observed that based upon reading her blog over a period of time, he got the impression she didn't like men very much. It was Althouse, in her reply, who then turned this into an allegation of man hating.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11306845.post-1129290210301940762005-10-14T07:43:00.000-04:002005-10-14T07:43:00.000-04:00Why do these powerful, successful women find it so...Why do these powerful, successful women find it so hard to find the right man?<BR/><BR/>Here is one possible reason. <BR/>Sexual harassment policies, and sexual policies in business in general, are intended to punish sexual relationships between people. The very men these women find the most desirable are afraid to get involved with them, and settle instead for someone outside their powerful world.LTEChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05830062956668562749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11306845.post-1129257864206246302005-10-13T22:44:00.000-04:002005-10-13T22:44:00.000-04:00Excellent read, Cathy. It summarises the points ra...Excellent read, Cathy. <BR/><BR/>It summarises the points raised at Althouse, and whilst you're not uncomfortable giving your viewpoints, and even personalising the topic, one never feels antagonised by your attitude.<BR/><BR/>BTW, I think I've read your memoirs...but I'm not certain.<BR/><BR/>When I was growing up, I went through a general Russian history mania, which culminated with my reading everything on Russia I could get my 14-year-old paws on.<BR/><BR/>Hedrick Smith was a god, etc. :)<BR/><BR/>So I will rummage in my library to confirm that. <BR/><BR/>Cheers,<BR/>Victoriavbspurshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00992013640447117624noreply@blogger.com